All young women begin by believing they can change and reform the men they marry. They can’t. ~George Bernard Shaw
Some things never change; human mentality for ever-lasting freedom is one of them! 
Growing Trend of staying single and marriage-free
According to the United States Bureau of the Census, the fastest-growing household type since the 1980s has been ‘the single person’. There has been a similar increase in single person households in England as well. If we look around, this trend is probably true for most of the free societies around the world.
Surprised?
You should not be. The institution of marriage has been under attack for a long-long time. This attack is coming from the marriage itself – the attack from within!
Now, what are these attacks from inside – from the marriage and married life itself? There are too may, you name it:
- Unhappy marriages – there are plenty of them to go around;
- Incompatible marriages – Not made for each-other;
- Marriages with different expectations – ‘I never thought we will end up like this’
- Drifting away over time – ‘I didn’t know we could grow apart over time’,
- The past – ‘I miss my freedom of good old single days’
- The grind – ‘I am doing this for the sake of the kids….only for the kids’
- Regret – ‘Sometimes I wish I could turn back the clock’
- The dead End – All the way to something like ‘I hate your guts more than I hate you’
- ….And many worse endings…
This should not surprise anyone, right? We all have seen this in our society, in our neighborhood. Day after day, there are examples of miserable or failed marriages playing out in our own back-yards. But somehow, we have all have found a way to justify and isolate ourselves from those troubled relations.
“That couldn’t be me. I can never be miserable like this”. Many have made this kind of promises to themselves. These self-declarations may not mean much down the road.
Marriage – The Compromise, the sacrifice
The Marriage brings reality of married life. And if reality is not what was expected, the justification begins. The justification may vary, but it is often there. Just ask around, give it a try!
You can ask your parents, your can ask your friends. Or if you have courage, ask yourself. If your listen, everybody says the same thing, one way or another: ‘Marriage is a compromise, it is a sacrifice’. Those who disagree are either delusional, or crazy, or single, or newly married. Read the rest of this entry »
