Human relations are complicated by nature; there is always something deeper, something more than meet the eye. Inter-racial relation are even more complex, even though they have been around for ages.
A previous article discussed Why white women find desi or Indian guys less attractive?. Now, ask the guys from India about White woman. No matter what these white women think about the Indian guys, the desi dudes hold no grudge against them. In fact, it is quite the opposite.
So, why is it that Indian guys find white women more attractive? There is no simple answer; at least nobody admits that it is so black and white – or should be say ‘brown and white’!
1. Fair skin attraction – First thing first, it is a culture thing that Indians prefer fair skin, especially on a woman. Many attribute this to Bollywood where almost all the leading actresses have milky complexion, but fair skin preference goes way back, even before black-and-white flicks took over Indian cinema. Many of the matrimonial advertisements often include ‘fair skin’ mention or requirement. The white women win hands down, if you just go by the skin color. So, this is good first impression, to start with! The fair skin criteria goes beyond the Bollywood actresses, and is common among all India cultures – home or abroad.
2. Stronger sense of independence – Compared to an Indian woman raised in an Indian society, a white woman from West is much more independent and self-reliant. In western culture (Western, as in Europe and America, not as in cowboys), the women have much more say in their personal decision-making, compared to Indian society where families dominate and control women’s upbringings.
3. Less family control - This is more of a continuation of previous point. The women from India are often controlled by the family in many important aspects of their life, including selecting a life-partner. So, the family interference is much more in the case of Indian women, and this is a turn-off for many guys – even by desi standard!
4. More outgoing and less cultural boundaries – The western culture is less restrictive and less intrusive for a female, compared to Indian traditions. As a result, white women are more outgoing and many guys find this appealing in their partners.
5. Shedding arranged marriage taboo – In modern Indian society, arranged marriage is fading away. The love marriages and on the uprise and are more socially accepted, compared to old days. The guys are giving more importance to the actual relations rather than family controlled match-making. As a result, guys have the option to look beyond Indian culture when it come to selecting their life partners.
6. Marrying into a superior race – Now, many will not admit this but white race has been often considered superior by the Indian society. There is a reason for millions of Indians migrating to the western countries. The capitalist system, the medical advancement, the developed infrastructural, the education system… all this add up to make an impression of a superior culture. Having a white partner is not looked down by the Indian society, even though it may not be accepted by the religions and the traditions. This is another reason for Indian guys to be attracted to white women.
7. Exploratory phase of life – Maybe some of the attraction is out of curiosity. After all, it is human nature to explore something non-transitional. Other might want to show rebellious side by going against the flow.
8. Easier to get along with and less complicated - Not sure how true this is, but many Indian guys are of the opinion than white women are easier to get along. It may boil down to fact that white women have less baggage from family side and less social restrictions compared to a typical Indian woman.
Now, it should be mentioned that modern Indian woman is much more independent and much more free compared to old days. The social restraints and family controls are fading with time. Some of the arguments above may not apply to the modern era Indian women, but perceptions linger. So, some of this behavior may be out of of mere perception than the reality. On average, however,, white women are more independent, more outgoing and are less restricted by the social boundaries. This may be the tipping point in the favor of white women.
In the end, the relations should not based on perceptions but mutual understand, regardless of the skin color or the culture. At the same time, you cannot overlook the fact that people have their preferences, prejudices and their own mindset when it comes to selecting a partner.
After all, the heart knows no boundaries!
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