19:19 Me
Are u okay if I use this ‘chat’ for a blog post…a post on ‘Some Indians abroad dating whites only’ ?

19:19 Neelam
No, not really! Plz!

19:20 Me
my loss :(

19:20 Neelam
haha….sorry

19:21 Me
:(

19:21 Neelam
may be..you can change the name and place…a little

19:21 Me
I should do that.
Why though?

19:22 Neelam
haha I don’t need publicity..or hate mails…lol

19:22 Me
okay cool, thanks

19:23 Neelam
haha np

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“There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.” said Shakespeare.

A friendly warning: take this post with a grain of salt, if you get indigestion from racial mix and deviations from the social norms. :)

Well, looks like you decided to read on! The ‘chat’ above is the ending portion of the conversation below.

Now, what the heck am I talking about? :)

Luckily or unluckily, I ran into someone online, someone who is a part of this ummm … trend! This ‘chat’ on the social network site is a quick glimpse into the psyche of the new desi generation abroad.

The ‘chat’ spans over multiple sessions, you may notice from the time-stamps. The mundane conversation started something like this:

15:19 Neelam
hi

15:20 Me
Hello Neelam, how r u?

15:20 Neelam
haha gud, n u?

15:21 Me
okay, I guess

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By the way, I wish I could say that these are uncut and unedited conversations, but that’s not the case. The name and place have been changed to maintain anonymity. Also, some of the unrelated and ‘boring chat’ – as she calls it, have been removed, you can tell this from the gaps in the time-intervals.

15:24 Neelam
what is this site about

15:24 Me
you can guess by the name – “The Indians abroad’
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15:27 Neelam
haha, not my thing

15:27 Me
why? :(

15:28 Neelam
haha don’t know. Not much into desi circle.

15:28 Me
Okay, whatever tickles ur fancy

15:29 Neelam
ya… :)

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18:07 Neelam
hi!!!!

18:07 Me
Hi, again

18:08 Neelam
I read your Babbu’s wedding thing on your blog….it’s hilarious lol

18:08 Me
Ok thanks.

18:08 Neelam
np

18:09 Me
I thought u were not into desi circle 

18:09 Neelam
haha…i am not

18:10 Me
So what circle are you into?

18:10 Neelam
non-desi..lol

18:11 Me
Okay, like?

18:11 Neelam
haha white circle..lol

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18:42 Me
So you mean you hang out with white friends only?

18:43 Neelam
Ya…somethin like dat

18:43 Me
but you have tons of desi friend on FaceBook, I noticed! :)

18:44 Neelam
haha that’s frm my family circle, not social circle….lol

18:44 Me
i see

18:45 Neelam
and some of them are my desi friends…da gals….my passé

18:45 Me
I don’t get it…

18:46 Neelam
haha its ok…whatever dude

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18:55 Me
so it’s okay to hang-out with desi girls, but not desi guys

18:55 Neelam
haha something like dat.

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18:58 Me
Wow! How did this start?

18:58 Neelam
haha ..just so happened…lol

18:59 Me
doesn’t make sense

18:59 Neelam
we only date white guys…clear nuff? lol

18:59 Me
‘we’ who?

19:00 Neelam
me and may desi gals…my passé,

19:00 Me
All I can say is wow, again :)

19:01 Neelam
I have seen worse reaction…lol
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During last two months of this summer of 2010, I also had the pleasure of attending two beautiful inter-racial weddings. Looking at the inter-racial couples attending those weddings, I can say that Neelam is not alone. There seem to be an emerging and perhaps growing trend among the new generation of Indians who prefer to choose a white person as their life partners. The trend may have been around for a while, but it is more noticeable in recent years.

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19:05 Me
is it a new fashion or old fashion? :)

19:06 Neelam
no fashion….just preference..lol

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19:12 Me
Your folks okay with that?

19:12 Neelam
haha don’t know…

19:13 Me
I mean they don’t say anything?

19:13 Neelam
they r not ok with dating at all..leave alone dating white dudes….lol
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19:19 Me
Are u okay if I use this ‘chat’ for a blog post…a post on ‘Some Indians abroad dating whites only’ ?

19:19 Neelam
No, not really! Plz!

19:20 Me
my loss :(

19:20 Neelam
haha….sorry

19:21 Me
:(

19:21 Neelam
You can change the name and place…a little

19:21 Me
I should do that.
Why though?

19:22 Neelam
haha I don’t need publicity..or hate mails…lol

19:22 Me
okay, cool…..thanks

19:23 Neelam
haha np

This observation is not a judgment – positive or negative, on anyone or any group of people. It is just something I recently noticed, multiple times.

You can call this ‘trend’ for the modern generation of Indians living abroad as a stereotype, or a racial bias against their own race. Or you can call it the rebellious behavior from the kids who may feel a bit over-controlled in their social choices. Or you can simply call it the normal thing for the new generation – plain and simple. This is not a new phenomenon, and for many, this is quite mundane and ‘oh so 90′s’.

The reason behind this trend? I have no clue. This could be a perfectly normal thing, based on how the families and schools are integrated these days for all races and cultures. Or, as I said before, this could be one of the many ways the younger generation wants to express their freedom and their choices. Any further dissection is beyond the scope of this article, at this time; may be next time! :)

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