In India, NRIs – non resident Indians, are always looked up to; NRIs are often envied for their prosperity and the riches. NRIs hold a special status in all walks of Indian life. They are well recognized for their deep pockets. There is no debate that most of the NRIs are considered very successful among Indian society, regardless how they make their living in the foreign land.
And how are the NRIs and Indians perceived in the foreign land? What is their social status in the county they live in? Well, exactly the opposite in many cases. There are no stories of special stature to write home about. For example, in the American society, you can find lots of successful NRIs, lots of middle class Indians who are well settled, but there is nothing to envy about their social standings, at least not in the adopted country. They are just a part of another minority group.
For example, consider the cases of successful NRIs who have professionally established themselves in the foreign countries – in Europe or America or any other developed country. There are lots of Indian doctors and engineers, and they are good ones too. They make a good living, they enjoy middle class or upper middle class life in most cases; many have big houses and all the other amenities. However, there is no special stature for this successful group of people. If anything, it is quite the opposite – the locals consider them outsiders in many cases. These well behaved and well educated Indians are sometimes, (and more often lately due to rising unemployment,) considered the cause of higher unemployment, and often blamed for stealing jobs form the locals. We are talking about doctors and engineers. The Situation is even worse for those who make their living by driving taxies or doing other average jobs.
So what is the point? The point is that NRIs often have a complete role reversal in their adopted countries, compared to back home in India. Unlike everyone looking up to them in India, they are often looked down in the land abroad.
If you think about it, the NRIs, especially the first generation NRIs, sacrifice a lot to succeed in the foreign country, including their pride, social stature and their social identity. They have to re-adjust to the role of a minority, they often have to adapt to the rules and customs of the new land and that is just the beginning. The hurdles and challenges abroad that a new comer faces are too many, and are discussed in detail in a separate article linked below. Over time, the NRIs often lose their language; their own way of life is compromised and they end up adapting to the foreign life-style. The whole adaptation happens so slowly – over the years, that NRIs don’t even realize the slow change in many cases, the slow changes over the decades of life abroad.
Life is a funny thing. It always looks different when you look back at the past, versus looking at the present. Perhaps going abroad was the right decision at that time. Perhaps, many of us did not have any better choice when we first left the homeland, long time ago. Or perhaps, most of us never thought that we were leaving our country for good. When we first start the journey, most of us may have never realized that we are permanently leaving behind so much. When we first go abroad, we all make a self-promise to return home, and yet rarely keep the promise.
So, there is not a whole lot to envy about NRIs. For some monetary gains, for a dream of prosperity and better life, most of the NRIs have lost a lot, many have sacrificed too much. The sad part – most of us don’t even realize it, don’t even think about it. All along, over the years, something called ‘life’ happens – a new life with new friends, with new family and in the new society in the new land.
Related Articles:
- NRIs and India diaspora – the key challenges abroad!
- NRIs – Scattered relations, separated friends!
- NRIs’ misplaced nostalgia of good old days
- Why do NRIs return to India?
- R2I Surprises await the returning NRIs
- The NRI dilemma: This country or that home?
- Being Indian abroad(rediff.com)



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#1 by school grants on July 3, 2010 - 7:16 PM
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What a great resource!
#2 by KM on July 4, 2010 - 3:02 AM
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Nice article with so much of emotions and rightly said about the first generation who has to adapt so much to the new. Heart in Heart they do miss their own culture, values and the freedom that they rejoice in homeland.
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#3 by Jennifer on July 8, 2010 - 8:13 PM
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I believe these issues expand among many other immigrant groups; not just NRIs….
A few thoughts came to my mind-
1. Desis (or others, Chinese, Asians, other immigrants) are seen as outsiders at times because of lack of integration into larger society. I have found even in workplaces immigrants talk among themselves in their native language. I understand it’s more comfortable to do so, but that alienates coworkers from participating (In English). It’s not just language, but refusing to participate in American activities, watching and talking about TV shows with Americans, etc. Sometimes people feel “Americans won’t understand my point of view because they aren’t from my group.” This alienates from square one, regardless of ethnic origin. But this extends beyond expats too, obviously. For instance, in my case, I am quite guilty. I am American born- having lived in India, married to an Indian and involved heavily in desi life in US…I feel as an outsider to a ‘typical American’ and sometimes feel people won’t understand even me because of my eating habits, following different holidays or American holidays in different ways, etc etc. Of course I feel a bit alien from my own American family at times because of this! How to go over the fence? Stradling both sides reduces misunderstandings from both sides. What do you think?
Second thought that came to mind is- I actually don’t always think non-Americans or expats steal American jobs. I may get into a lot of trouble by saying this- but many expats in these jobs are highly educated in special fields. Quite honestly the approach to education and hard work is not the same among current generations of American born as it used to be. This being said, there may not even be enough qualified American citizens for such jobs. Also Americans may complain about long hours and grunt work, which expats and foreigners may not complain about. These are observations I have collected from friends in the engineering and related fields in US.
#4 by admin on July 9, 2010 - 6:15 AM
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Thanks for sharing your views Jenn. I think alienation is something we can control with our own actions. We think two much about ‘what others will say’, especially whyen we are out of our comfort zone. I am surprised you feel alienated with your american family – you are probably thinking too much. Parents, siblings and good friends are something we can normally epend on, regardless what path we take in life. So, may be spend some more time with your american family, you may be surprised how deep the roots run in our family-trees and within our own blood relations.
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#6 by AB on July 28, 2010 - 4:22 AM
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Huh? Why would anyone think that NRIs have special status?
Your blog piece presents a warped psychological case:
1. You want to feel good about yourself by assuming everyone in India is envious of you.
2. Then, you want to feel generous and patronising despite being so special and so you try to talk about how things are “not so great abroad”.
3. You add to this potion your own racial inferiority complex and you talk about being treated like an outsider… a threat to local jobs etc.
Makes for an interesting dissection: You are trying to assuage a guilt complex about having a superiority complex by expressing an inferiority complex.
#7 by admin on July 28, 2010 - 7:01 AM
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Interesting analysis of ‘how I think and feel’!
Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
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#13 by sha on August 5, 2011 - 5:45 PM
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Rather be NRI than non-local
Very good depiction of NRIs social status in India and abroad. If I am true to myself, my thoughts would have been in the same lines as this article. One thing we may not realize is that this is same for majority of IT people from India whether they are called NRIs abroad or non-local in Bangalore/Pune. Only difference is 14 hour bus ride vs 18 hr plane ride.
Society in USA may be grouped on race or immigration which is well understood than alienation based on region. At least in USA you speak the same language as your neighbor.